I pretty much adore my kids.
And I think the feeling is mutual.
We enjoy being together, whether we’re working, relaxing, or being far more silly than is probably good for us.
No matter what else we’re doing together, you can be sure that it’s accompanied by a hefty dose of conversation.
Sometimes, though, I wonder whether these days are numbered.
Will my kids still enjoy being with me when they’re teenagers?
Will we still have chats about everything and nothing at all?
Will they confide in me their dreams, their fears, their failures, and their successes?
Will they come to me with their heartaches and questions? Their secrets and their struggles? Their friendship woes and their young love butterflies?
I hope so. Oh, how I pray so.
I’m at Intoxicated on Life today, sharing some ways I’m trying to build this kind of relationship with my kids.
Here’s an excerpt:
At ages 12, 9, 8, 6, 5, and 1, my kids are still pretty young, and it’s hard for me to imagine a time when they won’t want to talk to me at every moment of every day and night.
But I know from my own experience as a teen and from hearing the experiences of other moms that those days are coming and will in fact be here before I know it.
Looking ahead to those days, I know one thing for sure: I want my teenagers to talk to me. I want them to want to.
I want them to have that much confidence in my unconditional love.
I want them to have that much certainty that I will listen.
I want them to have that much assurance that I care.
And I want them to have that much conviction that I will be on their side.
There’s no magic equation that will guarantee a great relationship with our children as they grow.
But here are 10 qualities I try to nurture, prayerfully paving the way for teens and young adults who can confide in their mom.