One of my regrets in life is backing off when I should’ve leaned in.
As a very young woman, I had received news that a friend of mine was terminally ill. The sick man was the middle-aged husband of a musician I often played with for special events. Since her instrument was large, he was her “groupie,” and I spent much time with the two of them traveling to weddings and other celebrations we had booked.
My friends were childless, and I always kind of felt like they looked at me as a pseudo-daughter. And when I learned of his cancer, I was heartbroken.
But instead of drawing closer and loving harder, I backed away. I knew the pain of losing him was inevitable, and I naively concluded that cutting ties sooner rather than later would shield me from sorrow.
I was wrong.
Because when he died, it hurt just as badly. The only difference is that the pain was now coupled with regret.
Regret that I hadn’t been a better friend. Regret that I had missed out on moments I could’ve spent with these people I claimed to love. Regret that I didn’t even say goodbye.
This was a tough lesson in my life, but I learned it well. Several years later, my beloved grandpa became very sick, and instead of giving in to the natural urge to back off, I chose instead to lean in.
And somehow the time I spent with my grandpa at the very end of his life – time that should have drained and depleted me as I watched him waste away – instead fortified me and nourished me in a way I never expected and to this day don’t really understand.
Today’s featured post talks more about this idea of loving with reckless abandon. Because loving with self-preservation in my back pocket is a hollow replica of genuine love, lacking the selflessness and sacrifice that characterize the kind of love my Savior has shown me.
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