This post is part of a prayer challenge, 21 Days of Prayers For Your Friends. If you would like more information about the full challenge with daily email prayer guides, I invite you to find it here.
Once upon a time, I was hurt very badly by a friend, in a way that felt unfair and unkind.
And also in a way that made it pretty clear that she had no interest in remaining friends anymore.
I felt like she failed me in a big way.
It was painful, I must admit.
As much as I wanted to pull my shoulders back and raise my chin high and pretend like I was untouchable and unhurt-able, nothing could be further from the truth.
I wanted to lash out and defend myself and maybe even erase all the investment I had made in her and in us over the past few years.
But really, that would have been rather hypocritical of me.
Because guess what?
Some friendships end because of a single event – a blow-up of massive proportions that leaves destruction and rubble in its wake.
Others drift apart over time because the distance of miles or hearts cools the flames of affection that once burned hot.
No matter how they come to an end, broken friendships can be painful.
I have good news, though: when such heartache is sifted through the fingers of a loving Father, broken friendships can serve good purposes in our lives.
Let’s spend some time praying the Scriptures for broken friendships.
Prayers for a Broken Friendship
1. It is understandable and appropriate to grieve the loss of a close friendship. Thank the Lord for His promise to be near to the brokenhearted and to save the crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18) Pour out your heart to God, and allow His comforting presence to be the balm your soul longs for.
2. Acknowledge to God that a person with many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24) Thank God that you have friendship with Him through Jesus Christ, and that there is no better Friend than He who will never leave you nor forsake you. (Hebrews 13:5)
3. Praise the LORD God, your sunshine in the darkness and your shield from life’s blows; thank Him for the favor and honor He bestows. Agree with your good Father that He doesn’t withhold any good thing from those who walk uprightly. (Psalm 84:11)
Thank God for His sovereignty in your life; He doesn’t cause every relationship breakup, but He’ll never waste one, either. Ask Him for eyes to see the good He has accomplished and will continue to accomplish through the removal of this friendship.
If appropriate, pray that the friendship would be restored if it would please Him and if it would be a good thing for you and for the one you called “friend.”
4. Pray that God would grant you His grace and help in putting all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander away from you, along with all malice. Pray that He would give you a kind and tender heart that is willing to forgive in the same way you’ve been forgiven by God (Ephesians 4:31-32).
5. Commit to the Lord that you will repay no one evil for evil, but will instead give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. Pray that as far as it depends on you, you will live peaceably with all, never avenging yourself, but allowing God to mete out any justice that’s due.
Pray that your former friend wouldn’t become an enemy, and that neither of you would be overcome by evil, but would rather overcome evil with good. (Romans 12:17-21)
As the Lord leads, consider praying these prayers of blessing over this one who was once your friend.
Dear Heavenly Father, I thank You for the season of friendship You granted me with the person You placed on my heart today. It didn’t last as long as I thought it would, but it was a gift nonetheless, and so I praise You in spite of the pain of loss I still feel today.
Please shield me from the cords of bitterness that sometimes rear their ugly heads, and give me eyes to see the greater good that You have in store for me and for my friend as we continue life’s journey on separate paths.
Bless her, Lord, and provide for her every need and for mine, as well. It’s in the Name of my Savior, Jesus Christ, that I pray. Amen.
If you haven’t already done so, don’t forget to sign up for the rest of the prayer challenge! It will be a source of blessing in your life (and your friend’s life) as you continue to pray the Scriptures over her.